Privates are Private.
Your underwear covers up your private parts and no one should ask to see or touch them. Sometimes a doctor, nurse or family members might have to. But they should always explain why, and ask you if it’s OK first.
Always remember your body belongs to you.
Your body belongs to you. No one should ever make you do things that make you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. If someone asks to see or tries to touch you underneath your underwear say ‘NO’ – and tell someone you trust and like to speak to.
No means no.
No means no and you always have the right to say ‘no’ – even to a family member or someone you love. You’re in control of your body and the most important thing is how YOU feel. If you want to say ‘No’, it’s your choice.
Talk about secrets that upset you.
There are good and bad secrets. Good secrets can be things like surprise parties or presents for other people. Bad secrets make you feel sad, worried or frightened. You should tell an adult you trust about a bad secret straight away.
Speak up, someone can help.
Talk about stuff that makes you worried or upset. If you ever feel sad, anxious or frightened you should talk to an adult you trust. This doesn't have to be a family member. It can also be a teacher or a friend's parent – or even Childline.
Download our exciting PANTS game
Talking PANTS teaches children important messages, like their body belongs to them and they should tell an adult if they're upset or worried.
In the Playtime with Pantosaurus game, each of the principles of PANTS is introduced in between fun diving and basketball games.
Finding the right time to talk
Talking PANTS is as simple as teaching your child how to cross the road. You know your child better than anyone. And you'll know when they're ready and how much detail to go into. Some parents found these moments helped them start the conversation:
- bathtime, applying cream or when getting your child dressed
- car journeys
- going swimming and saying that what's covered by swimwear is private
- during a TV show that features a sensitive storyline
- singing along to our PANTS song with Pantosaurus.
PANTS resources for schools and teachers
These resources include a lesson plan, teaching guidance, class activities, early years guidance and a 'talk PANTS' slide presentation are available on our NSPCC Learning website.
Guide for parents
A simple step-by-step guide to help you talk PANTS with your child and keep them safe.
Guidance for foster carers
A custom-made guide to help you, as foster carers, talk PANTS with the children in care.
Guide for parents with a learning disability
An easy to read guide to help keep children safe from abuse. Teach your child to remember the word PANTS.
Guide for parents of children with autism
This guide is written for parents of children with autism. It teaches how to help keep children safe from abuse by using the initials PANTS.
Guide for children
This simple guide helps children learn the PANTS rules with Pantosaurus helping lead them through some fun and interactive questions.
Children with learning disabilities
This easy-to-read guide has been created for children with learning disabilities so they can understand the PANTS rules and how to stay safe from abuse.
Children with autism
This guide has been specifically created to help children with autism learn the PANTS rules in an easy and simple way so they know how to stay safe.
Cofia siarad PANTS!
Mae siarad PANTS yn dysgu plant negeseuon pwysig, fel bod eu cyrff yn perthyn iddyn nhw a dylent ddweud wrth oedolyn os ydynt yn ypset neu'n poeni.
Canllaw ar gyfer rhieni
Er mwyn helpu i gadw plant yn ddiogel rhag camdriniaeth, mae'r canllaw hwn yn defnyddio rheolau PANTS i ddysgu iddynt fod eu cyrff yn perthyn iddyn nhw.
Canllaw ar gyfer plant
Ffordd syml o helpu i gadw plant yn ddiogel rhag camdriniaeth drwy eu dysgu i gofio'r 5 rheolau sy'n sillafu PANTS.
Canllaw ar gyfer plant ag anableddau dysgu
Mae’r canllaw hawdd i ddarllen hwn yn defnyddio'r gair PANTS i helpu i gadw plant yn ddiogel rhag camdriniaeth, drwy eu dysgu bod eu corff yn perthyn iddyn nhw.
Canllaw ar gyfer rhieni ag anabeddau dysgu
Canllaw hawdd i ddarllen i helpu i gadw plant yn ddiogel rhag camdriniaeth. Dysgwch eich plentyn i gofio'r gair PANTS.
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