Talking to children about racism

Advice to help you understand how to talk to children about race and racism, and what you can do to support a child who’s experiencing racial bullying.

What is race and racism?

Race can mean a person’s colour, nationality, ethnicity or citizenship. It’s a protected characteristic in law under the Equality Act 20101 in England, Scotland and Wales, and the Race Relations Order 19972 in Northern Ireland.

This means it’s illegal to discriminate against someone, or treat them differently, because of their race.

It’s important to remember that someone’s ethnicity or national origin may not be the same as their current nationality. For example, someone may have Indian national origins and be living in Britain with a British passport.

Race also includes different ethnic and racial groups. This means a group of people who all share the same protected characteristic of ethnicity or race. General examples of racial groups include White British, Black British, British Asians, British Sikhs, British Jews, Romany Gypsies and Irish Travellers.3

Racial discrimination or racism is when someone is treated differently because of their race, ethnicity, nationality or colour. Any type of racism or racial discrimination is abusive and distressing for children and young people who experience or witness it.

If someone commits a crime against you because of your race it is considered a hate crime and is against the law. Instances of bullying that are racially motivated but not a crime are considered racist incidents.

Types of racism and racial discrimination

Racism, racial discrimination and racial bullying can take many forms and children and young people may experience more than one type of racism.

For example, a young person experiencing racial bullying in school could also be sent abusive comments online, and face racial discrimination at their workplace.

Racism can also happen alongside other forms of discrimination or abuse.

Racism or racial discrimination can include:


This involves treating a child or young person worse than someone else in a similar situation because of their race.
It can also include policies in a school, workplace or similar organisation that disadvantage people from a particular racial group.


This involves making a child, young person, or adult feel humiliated, offended or degraded. Harassment can be through spoken or written words, offensive emails, comments online or on social media, jokes, physical or facial expressions.


This is when a person is treated badly because they have made a complaint of race related discrimination under the Equality Act 2010.
It can also happen when someone is supporting a person who’s complained about racism or racial discrimination.

Overt racism

This involves making openly racist remarks to a child, young person or adult. It can include racist comments, such as being called racist names or being sent insulting messages or threats. It can also include physical violence or assault, or damaging personal belongings.

Covert racism

Covert racism involves making comments that devalue or put someone down because of their race.
These comments or ‘microagressions’ reflect racial prejudice and can make young people feel like they’re less important because of their race or that they don’t fit in.
Examples include things like saying ‘I don’t see colour’, which may come from a well-intentioned place but it doesn't recognise the diversity which actually does exist.
If you claim to not see colour it can mean you're not acknowledging a young person's identity and lived experience.

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How racism affects children

Racism and racial abuse or bullying can be really distressing for children and young people. When a child is bullied or treated differently because of their race, it can lead to feelings of isolation, depression, anger or even shame about their race or how they look.

In 2020/21, Childline delivered 285 counselling sessions where racist bullying, racism or being bullied for spiritual, cultural or religious reasons were mentioned. In the same year, there were 36 contacts to the NSPCC helpline from adults with concerns about these issues.

Racism or racial bullying can be overt or openly hostile, such as being called racist names or being sent threats.

Or it can be covert or harder to recognise, involving subtle comments that put a child or young person down and devalue their experience or identity.

Both types of racism are equally distressing for children and young people and can have a significant impact on their mental health.

Covert racism can affect young people’s self-esteem and support the idea that’s it’s okay to challenge a person’s experience.

This type of racism is subtle and can make it seem like it’s okay to dismiss racial prejudice or discrimination with comments like, ’it’s in your head’, or telling someone they’re ‘playing the race card’.

These comments can be very subtle but they are no less abusive, painful and humiliating for children and young people.

How to talk to children about racism

Children and young people will have seen images and stories in the news around Black Lives Matter.

They may also have heard or taken part in recent conversations around racism since the murder of George Floyd and many others in the US.

However, some children may not fully understand what’s happening and may have questions. It’s important to encourage positive and open conversations about race and racism with children and young people.

And to have them often, not just when Black Lives Matter is covered in the news, to keep the conversation going.

We have advice to help.

Sometimes we feel uncomfortable talking about things we don’t know much about. If a child asks you a question which you don’t know the answer to, it’s okay to suggest that you learn together. The following resources can also be a great way to improve your understanding of race and racism:


Learning about race, racism and privilege can lead people to consider what else they can do to combat discrimination. Sometimes, the next step can involve committing yourself to becoming actively anti-racist but it’s not always clear what that means. But when people talk about being anti-racist, it includes:

  • listening to people with lived experience of racism and accepting it as truth
  • calling out racism and discrimination wherever you see it and using your own privilege to draw attention to it
  • continuing to learn about inequality and how it affects others
  • regularly assessing your own thoughts about racism and discrimination
  • passing on what you learn to those around you, including family, friends and colleagues.


While many parents or carers may feel afraid of saying the wrong thing, having an open conversation will help children learn about how racism still exists, and to recognise how it affects them or people they know. Talking openly can also help a child to feel more comfortable sharing how they’re feeling with you, and to confide in you if they’ve experienced or seen racism or racial abuse.

We have support and advice for starting these conversations on our Talking about difficult topics page

While many parents may be worried about speaking to younger children in an age-appropriate way, research shows that children can internalize racial bias between ages 2 and 4.6It can help to describe racism in a way that your child will be able to understand. For example, you could talk about fairness, being kind, accepting others for who they are.

For older children, let them lead the conversation so they feel confident sharing their ideas or experiences. It’s important to provide a safe and comfortable environment for them to express themselves in by listening and asking questions without judging them.

It’s important to show children that black history isn’t just slavery, oppression and segregation. You could tell them about black contributions and stories that aren’t linked to the struggle of slavery and civil rights.

It could also help to diversify the books your children read and films or tv shows that they watch. Some recent campaigns and websites that might help you start a conversation include: 

  • A parent's guide to Black Lives Matter - resources and activities for you to use to work towards racial equality.
  • 56 Black Men – a campaign challenging the negative image of Black men throughout mainstream media.
  • NSPCC shop - we have a range of children's books on racial diversity and black history. 

It can help explain to children that we aren’t all the same, the human race is diverse and that is a good thing. The world would be a very boring place if everyone was the same. This can help children to notice race and appreciate it. It encourages conversation, understanding and empathy with people who are different from them.

  • NSPCC shop - we have a range of children's books on racial diversity and black history. 

“I am struggling with the racist bullying I get at school... I feel like everyone is against me. School is a quite an isolating place and nobody has ever stood up for me.

"I don't really want to address it to the school because that'll create more drama and it will make more people turn against me and my school life will be even more miserable. I'd rather the school did a talk about racism and its history.”*

*Girl, aged 12.

If you're worried about a child experiencing racial bullying

If a child tells you they’ve experienced racial bullying or abuse, whether they’re being called names, excluded because of their race, attacked or threatened, it’s important to know how support them. We have advice to help.

Listen to them

It’s really important to listen non-judgementally to what a child or young person is telling you. Their experience is real, it’s painful and they have come to you to talk about it.
Show them they can trust you by letting them know you’re there if they want to talk and thank them for confiding in you. We also have advice to help you know what to do if a child reveals abuse.

Show them you care

It’s okay to feel uncomfortable and not be sure what to say. What’s most important is to show empathy and acknowledge the seriousness of what they’ve shared and how it’s affected them.
If you’re a teacher or youth leader, remember that it’s never a child’s fault if they’re experiencing racial abuse or bullying.

Decide how you'll support them

It’s important for parents to support their child emotionally by letting them know you care about them and that they can always be honest with you. Explain to your child that what’s happened to them isn’t their fault and that you’re proud of who they are.
If your child’s experienced racism or bullying from someone at their school or someone you know, consider getting a mediator for you and the other family to discuss the situation.
This could be someone at your child’s school or a family member you trust. You should also let your child’s school know about the bullying.
Schools have a responsibility to protect children in their care and not to discriminate against children.
If you feel your child’s facing racial discrimination or not being treated equally at their school, or that the school is not taking racial bullying seriously, it’s important to raise your concerns with the Headteacher or another senior member of staff.

Help them get support

Sometimes a child or young person may need to be able to cry or express their anger or hurt about what’s happened to them. This could be through counselling or with an adult they trust.
It’s important to be led by what the young person feels comfortable with, but you can also reassure them that it's ok to express how they feel and that there are different types of support available.
Children and young people under 19 can also contact Childline to talk this through with a counsellor.
If you’re in a position of authority, for example at the child’s school, refer to your best practice guidance around safeguarding.
This may mean excluding the person responsible for racial bullying or abuse, further staff training, changing your policy and educating the child’s peer group on diversity and inclusion.

Report hate crime to the police

Being bullied or treated differently because of race is hate crime and against the law. If you’re worried about a child experiencing racial abuse or bullying it’s important to get help right away.
You or the young person can report it to the police by calling 999 in an emergency or 101 at other times.
You can also report hate crime online via the government website.

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