Let's talk PANTS

With the help of our friendly dinosaur Pantosaurus, PANTS is a simple way to talk to your child about staying safe from sexual abuse.

PANTS

You’ve probably already talked to your child about things like crossing the road safely. Talking to them about staying safe from sexual abuse is just as easy with our PANTS rules and Pantosaurus song.

Swipe across to learn what PANTS stands for

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Privates are Private.

Your underwear covers up your private parts and no one should ask to see or touch them. Sometimes a doctor, nurse or family members might have to. But they should always explain why, and ask you if it’s OK first.

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Always remember your body belongs to you.

Your body belongs to you. No one should ever make you do things that make you feel embarrassed or uncomfortable. If someone asks to see or tries to touch you underneath your underwear say ‘NO’ – and tell someone you trust and like to speak to.

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No means no.

No means no and you always have the right to say ‘no’ – even to a family member or someone you love. You’re in control of your body and the most important thing is how YOU feel. If you want to say ‘No’, it’s your choice.

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Talk about secrets that upset you.

There are good and bad secrets. Good secrets can be things like surprise parties or presents for other people. Bad secrets make you feel sad, worried or frightened. You should tell an adult you trust about a bad secret straight away.

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Speak up, someone can help.

Talk about stuff that makes you worried or upset. If you ever feel sad, anxious or frightened you should talk to an adult you trust. This doesn't have to be a family member. It can also be a teacher or a friend's parent – or even Childline.

When's the right time to talk? 

You know your child better than anyone. And you'll know when they're ready and how much detail to go into. Some parents found these moments helped them start the conversation:

      • bathtime, applying cream or when getting your child dressed 
      • car journeys
      • going swimming and saying that what's covered by swimwear is private
      • during a TV show that features a sensitive storyline
      • singing along to our PANTS song with Pantosaurus.

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Talk PANTS with Amazon Alexa

Amazon Echo Dot and Apple Ipad on coffee tableOur Amazon Alexa skill is a fun, new way to help you teach your child about PANTS. Our skill shares everything you and your child need to know about the PANTS rule, including Pantosaurus' song and a PANTS quiz.

It's easy to launch our free skill. Open your Alexa app and enable the NSPCC skill. Say "Alexa, open NSPCC" on your Alexa app or Echo devices and start talking PANTS today.

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Get the PANTS guide that's right for you

We have a range of PANTS guides for parents and carers including guides in Welsh, guides for people with a disability and for children with autism.

BSL video for keeping deaf children safe

Our video created in British Sign Language can help you teach deaf children important messages, like their body belongs to them and they should tell an adult if they're upset or worried.