Baby parenting tips

Information and advice to help you through the early years.

From getting babies to sleep, to managing stress, looking after a new baby can be a challenging time. We've got tips and advice to help you through the early years.

Mental health during pregnancy and after your baby is born

If you're expecting a baby or have recently given birth, you might be feeling anxious. 

Taking care of your mental health when you or your partner is pregnant or after having a baby is important for you and your baby – especially at the moment. You might feel a lot of pressure to care for your new baby.

You might be worried about other things as well, like the health of loved ones, your job or getting sick yourself. We've got tips to help.

Talk about your feelings

Speak to your partner or talk to friends and family about how you feel. Don't be afraid to reach out for support – talking through your worries can help a great deal.

You can also speak to us on 0808 800 5000 or through email at [email protected].

Plan and prepare for change


If you're pregnant it's a good idea to know what changes you might have to make to your birth plan.

Having a stand-in birth partner might be a good idea if your first-choice birth partner is sick or unavailable.

The way some services are being delivered has changed too so it's good to be aware of these and prepared.

Keep up to date with local information from your midwifery team – for example through maternity ward Facebook pages.

You can get advice and information from trusted places like the Royal College of Midwives or the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.

Rest and sleep

Whether you're preparing to give birth or already have a newborn in the house, it's important to get as much rest as you can. This can be easier said than done but try to sleep when they sleep or let your partner help if they're at home with you.

Take it one day at a time

Try and focus on the here and now. Each day can be exciting or emotional enough when you're preparing for life with a baby or getting used to them being here. Try not to worry too much about the future and things you can't control. And speak to someone who can support you if you're struggling.

Don’t worry about being a super-parent

Mums and dads often put extra pressure on themselves. Be kind to yourself and accept that you might not get everything perfect all the time.

Limit news and social media

Try limiting the amount of time you spend watching or reading the news and social media. Staying informed about the pandemic is important but over exposure to constant news, discussion and speculation can increase your anxiety.

Journalling and letter writing


Try keeping a journal or diary of your daily life or write a letter to your future self.

This will give you space to jot down any anxious thoughts and help you focus on the fact that the current crisis will not last forever.

You could also write a letter to your baby for them to read when they grow up about the opportunities and challenges these unusual times bring.

Keeping a mood diary to track how you're feeling can help you spot any difficult days, times of day or patterns in your moods.

You can use this to think about how you can put a small enjoyable activity in each day to enjoy and look forward to, like listening to your favourite music, having a relaxing bath, doing some pregnancy yoga or taking some time to talk with friends.

Get help for depression and anxiety

Depression and anxiety can be common for soon-to-be and new parents. It's important to remember that you're not alone and there's support available to you.

If you have any concerns or worries, speak out and get help from your midwife, health visitor or GP. You can speak to our trained counsellors by calling 0808 800 5000 or emailing [email protected]

There are charities offering help to expectant families and new parents, such as Best Beginnings.

5 tips for getting babies to sleep

All babies have different sleep patterns and it can be stressful for parents if their baby isn't going to sleep easily. We've got 5 simple tips that might help you both get into a routine:

It’s important to help your baby tell the difference between day from night. Try:

  • keeping your baby involved in your usual activities during the day
  • going out for fresh air as daylight helps to set babies' body clocks
  • keeping things dark and quiet at night and avoiding activity and eye contact to create a calm space.

A good sleep routine is key to having healthy sleep habits. Try doing the same thing every night so your baby learns to know when it's time to sleep.

This might include:

  • quiet play
  • a short warm bath
  • a story followed by bedtime.

Sticking to the same routine can help your baby learn it's time for sleep.

Young babies can get used to falling asleep by sucking on a bottle or breast. From 3 months you could try separating the bedtime feed from your bedtime routine. This can help to avoid wind issues at bedtime and teach them to fall asleep without sucking.

Try putting your baby to bed when they're drowsy but not fully asleep. And use your bedtime routine as a wind down so your baby is ready for sleep.

If your baby can fall asleep on their own they're more likely to be able to settle by themselves in the night.

Aim for your baby to take regular naps in the day. This not only helps to establish more predictable times for eating but will mean they won't be overtired when you put them to sleep. And they'll settle more easily.

From 9 months of age try to avoid late afternoon naps.

How to calm a crying baby

Why do babies cry?

Crying is the only way that a baby can let you know that something’s making them unhappy. If a baby’s crying, it’s not the end of the world, even if it sounds like it.

A crying baby might:

  • be too hot
  • be too cold
  • be hungry
  • be windy
  • have a full nappy
  • need some attention.

What to do when a baby is crying

If you can’t find what’s making your baby cry, see if there’s anything else you can do to calm them down, such as:

  • sing a song
  • give them a baby massage
  • go for a walk to change the surroundings.

Where to get support

Talk to other parents about how they calm down a crying baby, or visit an online forum like Netmums. Other mums and dads probably all have their own ways of soothing their babies and their suggestions could work for yours too.

Cry-sis is a UK charity that offers help and support for parents with babies who cry excessively or have trouble sleeping. Their helpline is available 7 days a week from 9 am to 10 pm on 0800 448 0737.

Tips for managing stress

Sometimes stress can become too hard to handle. But when you're looking after a baby or toddler, it's important to take action to relieve stress.


Having a few relaxation techniques can help you focus on your child's safety.


  • Arrange time for a rest. Feeling tired or trapped can make stress feel even worse. See if you can arrange set times when your partner or a family member can take over the baby care and you can have a rest or get some exercise.


  • Have tricks to deal with stress. Stressful events are going to happen. But if you already have a strategy in place to deal with them, it'll be a real help. Taking deep breaths and counting to 10 is a favourite but you could also go for a walk or get some fresh air.


  • Put on some music. That can be one of the best ways to change your mood straight away. So you could make sure your baby is in a safe place where they can't come to any harm, go into another room and listen to one of your favourites to give yourself a short break.


  • Ask a friend or a neighbour for help. See if a neighbour can pop round to give you a little support (and understanding!) or give a friend a ring. And, remember, NSPCC counsellors are also only a phone call away on 0808 800 5000.


  • See what others do. Talk to other people about how they handle stressful situations. They might have a solution that could work for you too. Remember, it's okay to experience stress and frustration, you're not alone. It's all part of bringing up children.

Bonding with your baby

Before you know it, your child will no longer be a baby. But during these early years, the bond you form will build a solid foundation for you both.

Before the baby’s born

You can start the bonding process before your baby's even born by talking to "the bump" even if you haven't picked a name yet.

After the baby’s born

There's a few things you can try to make your bond even stronger:

  • Have lots of skin-to-skin contact – touch and smell are 2 of the most important senses in the bonding process.
  • Smile, talk, sing, cuddle and play with your baby as much as you can.
  • Learn some massage techniques - this could also come in handy when you're trying to calm a crying baby.
  • Make eye contact - this could also help you tell your baby's mood.

If you need help bonding

There's plenty of help available if you don't think bonding with your baby is going as well as it could. Your midwife or health visitor may be able to support you, or try talking with a close friend or family member

Or you can speak to one of our Helpline counsellors by calling 0808 800 5000.

Look, Say, Sing, Play - bonding and brain-building

We’ve got lots of fun and easy tips for bonding with your baby. Talking, singing and playing are all great for bonding, but they also help your baby’s brain to grow.

But it’s not just about singing or talking at your baby. Brain-building happens when you and your little one are interacting with each other.

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Baby safety in the home

It's natural to want to keep your baby as safe as possible, outside or at home. So here are some important things to consider.

Leaving your baby alone

If you're going to leave your baby alone in a room, make sure they're not at risk of rolling or falling off something, like a sofa or a bed. Make sure that if you leave your baby, it's not a place where brothers, sisters or pets could accidentally cause them harm.

Baby proofing

In any instance, have a thorough check that there's nothing within reach for them that could hurt them – for example, objects they might put in their mouth or cords they could get tangled up in.

Sleeping with your baby

Place your baby's cot by your bed or a mattress by their cot if you want to be close to your baby at night. There's a real risk that a sleeping adult could easily roll over and suffocate a baby.